#119 Where are all of the men?

The daughter of a friend had a discussion with her mother about this very topic. Her mother had some very wise words. Ultimately the advice was be patient and observant. There are a few men who may just be worthy of you. At least that was my take on the advice and I wholeheartedly support it.

It has caused me to give some thought to the question. My three daughters have had the good fortune to meet men who are good guys. They are men I am proud to know. They were not the first men the "girls" were involved with and I believe their relationships will last for a very long time.

But, back to the question. The young lady was concerned that all of the men she met would be whining about the sad turns of events in their lives and were not really paying any attention to a young woman who would be willing to share some time with them.

Here are some thoughts that might shed some light on the location of the men.

• They are all around you.
• Many are so self-centered that they don't realize they are not as much of a prized catch as they think.
• Many are too afraid to acknowledge their feeling side.
• Many are too concerned about presenting a macho image.
• Many are too concerned about what other men will think about them.
• Many are too preoccupied with their own frailties to listen to what women want.
• Most of us are not adept at reading minds and divining what a woman wants.
• Most of us, to quote Jeff Foxworthy, only want a beer and to see something nekkid.
• Most of us prefer a direct approach to life. Tell us what you want, don't make us guess.
• Most of us don't understand the value of serving others, caring about those we serve, much less sharing the love in our hearts.
• Most of us have an idealized vision of the perfect woman, and like the perfect man, they don't exist.

So where are all the men? Just like all the women, they are all around. How do you determine which is the one you want to spend some time with? Trust your gut instincts. Ask the universe for someone to cross your path with whom you are reasonably compatible and be observant. Don't jump at the first one who comes along. Rejoice when there is one who is worth spending more time with. And above all else, communicate what you want. Don't accept less.

So there you have it. Just one man's view. Remember, I do live in the center of our country in a very small community and I do not have all of the answers. I do like to think that I do.

Thank you for taking time to get this far. Should you care to leave a comment it would be appreciated. I am sure the young lady in question will find your comments of value. I know that I will.


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