It came to me this afternoon that this would be a terrific posting. After a number of weekends on the road or working, we finally had some time to do some major house cleaning. We have reached a division of labor that is perfect for us. Although since I do the dusting, I would appreciate fewer things to dust. The up side of that is that I don't always find the same things in the same place from dusting to dusting.
You might rightfully ask what this all has to do with saying thank you. Be patient gentle readers, I am coming to that.
My wife was vacuuming in the "den/library/office/TV room and I was dusting in the dining room when she gave out a loud thank you. She then asked if I knew why. I had the correct answer to that one. (Some days I just get lucky.) While I had been dusting in the aforementioned room(s) I had seen a stack of magazines (Wine Spectator). Some of them needed to be stored away and I did so. They had been bothering me for a couple of days, and today was the day to care of them. No fanfare, just do the job. Anyway, she saw that thanked me. She was not that surprised that I guessed why she rendered that thank you.
It is something we have gotten into a habit of doing. She may put the dishes in the dishwasher or take them from the dishwasher and put them away. Whatever it is, it deserves a thank you. I have found myself looking for times to say those two magic words. It has worked wonders on our relationship. It tends to short circuit the need to either nitpick, or perceive a perfectly legitimate suggestion as nitpicking/fault finding.
So my suggestion to you who chose to read this post and stayed with it this far, use that magic phrase as often as you can. State it with a sincere smile and you will reap rewards you may never expect. It is a great way to mend a rocky time. It says you care enough to notice the little things others do for you, even when they don't realize that is what they are doing. It doesn't require a lengthy discussion. Just say it and move on.
Having said that I close with a great big, Thank you!
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THANK YOU!
We hear so many complaints about poor service and attitude in shops and places of business, I find an almost foolproof way around this is to look the other person in the eye, smile, and say Thank You, it seldom fails.
BTW Jack I had a look over my site and Margaret's with both Internet Explorer and Firefox and can't see ant reason for strange type etc.
Thank You, for pointing it out though.
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